New HABIT – 66 days

from here:    http://jamesclear.com/new-habit

On average, it takes more than 2 months before a new behavior becomes automatic — 66 days to be exact. And how long it takes a new habit to form can vary widely depending on the behavior, the person, and the circumstances. In Lally’s study, it took anywhere from 18 days to 254 days for people to form a new habit.

from here:    http://jamesclear.com/new-habit

FEAR NOT – 365 times…

 

How many miracles are in the bible?  Jesus did 37.

How many creations? 1

How many floods? 1

How many man eating whales? 1

How many times are we called to worship God in the bible?  290 (J. Piper “Worship God” 1997/11/09)

How many times are we called to FEAR NOT!?   365

How many times are we called to love?   348

How many times does the bible talk about gay?   6

How many times does the bible talk about money?  800

How many time does the bible talk about debt in a positive way?  0

How many times in the bible are we called to hate other people? 0

How many time in the bible are we called to sin?  0

How long is the bible?   611000 words long

How many times is salvation mentioned in the bible? 164

How many times is humility mentioned in the bible?  72

FROM HERE:  http://musingsofaministerswife.com/ministry/so-how-many-times-is-fear-not-actually-in-the-bible/

I was so intrigued when I learned that “Fear Not” was in the Bible 365 times. I thought, “Wow! How awesome is that!”

 

After a few months of thinking about this from time to time, I had a great idea to do a printable using all 365 scripture references that deal with “fear not”. I went to my concordance to get the scripture references, and do you know what I found?

  • The phrase in the intended context is only used 80+ times
  • The phrase “fear not” in used in other contexts, but you wouldn’t want them to apply to you
  • Other word pairings that would be equal to “fear not” (“do not be afraid”, “do not fear”, “be not afraid”) is used 30+ times

While it’s a great idea to think that God comforted us with “Fear not” 365 times, it’s simply just not true.

Here is a list of all of the scriptures that I used. The first section is “Fear Not”. Then it starts over with “be not afraid”, etc. references.

  • After these things the word of the LORD came unto Abram in a vision, saying , Fear not, Abram: I am thy shield, and thy exceeding great reward.

  • And God heard the voice of the lad; and the angel of God called to Hagar out of heaven, and said unto her, What aileth thee, Hagar? fear not; for God hath heard the voice of the lad where he is.

  • And the LORD appeared unto him the same night, and said , I am the God of Abraham thy father: fear not, for I am with thee, and will bless thee, and multiply thy seed for my servant Abraham’s sake.

  • And it came to pass, when she was in hard labour , that the midwife said unto her, Fear not; thou shalt have this son also.

  • And he said , Peace be to you, fear not: your God, and the God of your father, hath given you treasure in your sacks: I had your money. And he brought Simeon out unto them.

  • And he said , I am God, the God of thy father: fear not to go down into Egypt; for I will there make of thee a great nation:

  • And Joseph said unto them, Fear not: for am I in the place of God?

  • Now therefore fear ye not: I will nourish you, and your little ones. And he comforted them, and spake kindly unto them.

  • And Moses said unto the people, Fear ye not, stand still , and see the salvation of the LORD, which he will shew to you to day: for the Egyptians whom ye have seen to day, ye shall see them again no more for ever.

  • And Moses said unto the people, Fear not: for God is come to prove you, and that his fear may be before your faces, that ye sin not.

  • Only rebel not ye against the LORD, neither fear ye the people of the land; for they are bread for us: their defence is departed from them, and the LORD is with us: fear them not.

  • And the LORD said unto Moses, Fear him not: for I have delivered him into thy hand, and all his people, and his land; and thou shalt do to him as thou didst unto Sihon king of the Amorites, which dwelt at Heshbon.

  • Behold , the LORD thy God hath set the land before thee: go up and possess it, as the LORD God of thy fathers hath said unto thee; fear not, neither be discouraged .

  • And the LORD said unto me, Fear him not: for I will deliver him, and all his people, and his land, into thy hand; and thou shalt do unto him as thou didst unto Sihon king of the Amorites, which dwelt at Heshbon.

  • And shall say unto them, Hear , O Israel, ye approach this day unto battle against your enemies : let not your hearts faint , fear not, and do not tremble , neither be ye terrified because of them;

  • Be strong and of a good courage , fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the LORD thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.

  • And the LORD, he it is that doth go before thee; he will be with thee, he will not fail thee, neither forsake thee: fear not, neither be dismayed .

  • And the LORD said unto Joshua, Fear not, neither be thou dismayed : take all the people of war with thee, and arise , go up to Ai: see , I have given into thy hand the king of Ai, and his people, and his city, and his land:

  • And the LORD said unto Joshua, Fear them not: for I have delivered them into thine hand; there shall not a man of them stand before thee.

  • And Joshua said unto them, Fear not, nor be dismayed , be strong and of good courage : for thus shall the LORD do to all your enemies against whom ye fight .

  • And I said unto you, I am the LORD your God; fear not the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell : but ye have not obeyed my voice.

  • And the LORD said unto him, Peace be unto thee; fear not: thou shalt not die .

  • And now, my daughter, fear not; I will do to thee all that thou requirest : for all the city of my people doth know that thou art a virtuous woman.

  • And about the time of her death the women that stood by her said unto her, Fear not; for thou hast born a son. But she answered not, neither did she regard it

  • And Samuel said unto the people, Fear not: ye have done all this wickedness: yet turn not aside from following the LORD, but serve the LORD with all your heart;

  • Abide thou with me, fear not: for he that seeketh my life seeketh thy life: but with me thou shalt be in safeguard.

  • And he said unto him, Fear not: for the hand of Saul my father shall not find thee; and thou shalt be king over Israel, and I shall be next unto thee; and that also Saul my father knoweth .

  • And David said unto him, Fear not: for I will surely shew thee kindness for Jonathan thy father’s sake, and will restore thee all the land of Saul thy father; and thou shalt eat bread at my table continually.

  • Now Absalom had commanded his servants, saying , Mark ye now when Amnon’s heart is merry with wine, and when I say unto you, Smite Amnon; then kill him, fear not: have not I commanded you? be courageous , and be valiant .

  • And Elijah said unto her, Fear not; go and do as thou hast said: but make me thereof a little cake first, and bring it unto me, and after make for thee and for thy son.

  • And he answered , Fear not: for they that be with us are more than they that be with them.

  • And David said to Solomon his son, Be strong and of good courage , and do it: fear not, nor be dismayed : for the LORD God, even my God, will be with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee, until thou hast finished all the work for the service of the house of the LORD.

  • Ye shall not need to fight in this battle: set yourselves, stand ye still, and see the salvation of the LORD with you, O Judah and Jerusalem: fear not, nor be dismayed ; to morrow go out against them: for the LORD will be with you.

  • For then shalt thou lift up thy face without spot; yea, thou shalt be stedfast , and shalt not fear :

  • Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.

  • The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear ? the LORD is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid ?

  • Though an host should encamp against me, my heart shall not fear : though war should rise against me, in this will I be confident .

  • In God I will praise his word, in God I have put my trust ; I will not fear what flesh can do unto me.

  • That they may shoot in secret at the perfect: suddenly do they shoot at him, and fear not.

  • The LORD is on my side; I will not fear : what can man do unto me?

  • Be not afraid of sudden fear, neither of the desolation of the wicked, when it cometh .

  • And say unto him, Take heed , and be quiet ; fear not, neither be fainthearted for the two tails of these smoking firebrands, for the fierce anger of Rezin with Syria, and of the son of Remaliah.

  • Say ye not, A confederacy, to all them to whom this people shall say , A confederacy; neither fear ye their fear, nor be afraid .

  • Say to them that are of a fearful heart, Be strong , fear not: behold, your God will come with vengeance, even God with a recompence; he will come and save you.

  • Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed ; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.

  • For I the LORD thy God will hold thy right hand, saying unto thee, Fear not; I will help thee.

  • Fear not, thou worm Jacob, and ye men of Israel; I will help thee, saith the LORD, and thy redeemer , the Holy One of Israel.

  • But now thus saith the LORD that created thee, O Jacob, and he that formed thee, O Israel, Fear not: for I have redeemed thee, I have called thee by thy name; thou art mine.

  • Fear not: for I am with thee: I will bring thy seed from the east, and gather thee from the west;

  • Thus saith the LORD that made thee, and formed thee from the womb, which will help thee; Fear not, O Jacob, my servant; and thou, Jesurun, whom I have chosen .

  • Fear ye not, neither be afraid : have not I told thee from that time, and have declared it? ye are even my witnesses. Is there a God beside me? yea, there is no God; I know not any.

  • Hearken unto me, ye that know righteousness, the people in whose heart is my law; fear ye not the reproach of men, neither be ye afraid of their revilings.

  • Fear not; for thou shalt not be ashamed : neither be thou confounded ; for thou shalt not be put to shame : for thou shalt forget the shame of thy youth, and shalt not remember the reproach of thy widowhood any more.

  • In righteousness shalt thou be established : thou shalt be far from oppression; for thou shalt not fear : and from terror; for it shall not come near thee.

  • And I will set up shepherds over them which shall feed them: and they shall fear no more, nor be dismayed , neither shall they be lacking , saith the LORD.

  • Therefore fear thou not, O my servant Jacob, saith the LORD; neither be dismayed , O Israel: for, lo, I will save thee from afar, and thy seed from the land of their captivity; and Jacob shall return , and shall be in rest , and be quiet , and none shall make him afraid .

  • But fear not thou, O my servant Jacob, and be not dismayed , O Israel: for, behold, I will save thee from afar off, and thy seed from the land of their captivity; and Jacob shall return , and be in rest and at ease , and none shall make him afraid .

  • Fear thou not, O Jacob my servant, saith the LORD: for I am with thee; for I will make a full end of all the nations whither I have driven thee: but I will not make a full end of thee, but correct thee in measure; yet will I not leave thee wholly unpunished .

  • As an adamant harder than flint have I made thy forehead: fear them not, neither be dismayed at their looks, though they be a rebellious house.

  • Then said he unto me, Fear not, Daniel: for from the first day that thou didst set thine heart to understand , and to chasten thyself before thy God, thy words were heard , and I am come for thy words.

  • And said , O man greatly beloved, fear not: peace be unto thee, be strong , yea, be strong . And when he had spoken unto me, I was strengthened , and said , Let my lord speak ; for thou hast strengthened me.

  • Fear not, O land; be glad and rejoice : for the LORD will do great things .

  • In that day it shall be said to Jerusalem, Fear thou not: and to Zion, Let not thine hands be slack

  • According to the word that I covenanted with you when ye came out of Egypt, so my spirit remaineth among you: fear ye not.

  • And it shall come to pass, that as ye were a curse among the heathen, O house of Judah, and house of Israel; so will I save you, and ye shall be a blessing: fear not, but let your hands be strong .

  • So again have I thought in these days to do well unto Jerusalem and to the house of Judah: fear ye not.

  • But while he thought on these things, behold , the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying , Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost.

  • Fear them not therefore: for there is nothing covered , that shall not be revealed ; and hid, that shall not be known

  • And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.

  • And the angel answered and said unto the women, Fear not ye: for I know that ye seek Jesus, which was crucified .

  • But the angel said unto him, Fear not, Zacharias: for thy prayer is heard ; and thy wife Elisabeth shall bear thee a son, and thou shalt call his name John.

  • And the angel said unto her, Fear not, Mary: for thou hast found favour with God.

  • And the angel said unto them, Fear not: for, behold , I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people.

  • And so was also James, and John, the sons of Zebedee, which were partners with Simon. And Jesus said unto Simon, Fear not; from henceforth thou shalt catch men.

  • But when Jesus heard it, he answered him, saying , Fear not: believe only, and she shall be made whole .

  • But even the very hairs of your head are all numbered . Fear not therefore: ye are of more value than many sparrows.

  • Fear not, little flock; for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom.

  • Fear not, daughter of Sion: behold , thy King cometh , sitting on an ass’s colt.

  • Saying , Fear not, Paul; thou must be brought before Caesar: and, lo , God hath given thee all them that sail with thee.

  • For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

  • So that we may boldly say , The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.

  • And when I saw him, I fell at his feet as dead. And he laid his right hand upon me, saying unto me, Fear not; I am the first and the last:

  • Fear none of those things which thou shalt suffer : behold , the devil shall cast some of you into prison, that ye may be tried ; and ye shall have tribulation ten days: be thou faithful unto death, and I will give thee a crown of life.

  • When thou goest out to battle against thine enemies , and seest horses, and chariots, and a people more than thou, be not afraid of them: for the LORD thy God is with thee, which brought thee up out of the land of Egypt.

  • Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage ; be not afraid , neither be thou dismayed : for the LORD thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest .

  • And the LORD said unto Joshua, Be not afraid because of them: for to morrow about this time will I deliver them up all slain before Israel: thou shalt hough their horses, and burn their chariots with fire.

  • And the king said unto her, Be not afraid : for what sawest thou? And the woman said unto Saul, I saw gods ascending out of the earth.

  • And the angel of the LORD said unto Elijah, Go down with him: be not afraid of him. And he arose , and went down with him unto the king.

  • And Isaiah said unto them, Thus shall ye say to your master, Thus saith the LORD, Be not afraid of the words which thou hast heard , with which the servants of the king of Assyria have blasphemed me.

  • And he said , Hearken ye, all Judah, and ye inhabitants of Jerusalem, and thou king Jehoshaphat, Thus saith the LORD unto you, Be not afraid nor dismayed by reason of this great multitude; for the battle is not yours, but God’s.

  • Be strong and courageous , be not afraid nor dismayed for the king of Assyria, nor for all the multitude that is with him: for there be more with us than with him:

Proverbs 3:25 KJV

Be not afraid of sudden fear, neither of the desolation of the wicked, when it cometh .

  • She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

  • Therefore thus saith the Lord GOD of hosts, O my people that dwellest in Zion, be not afraid of the Assyrian: he shall smite thee with a rod, and shall lift up his staff against thee, after the manner of Egypt.

  • And Isaiah said unto them, Thus shall ye say unto your master, Thus saith the LORD, Be not afraid of the words that thou hast heard , wherewith the servants of the king of Assyria have blasphemed me.

  • Zion, that bringest good tidings , get thee up into the high mountain; O Jerusalem, that bringest good tidings , lift up thy voice with strength; lift it up , be not afraid ; say unto the cities of Judah, Behold your God!

  • Be not afraid of their faces: for I am with thee to deliver thee, saith the LORD.

  • They are upright as the palm tree, but speak not: they must needs be borne , because they cannot go . Be not afraid of them; for they cannot do evil , neither also is it in them to do good

  • Be not afraid of the king of Babylon, of whom ye are afraid; be not afraid of him, saith the LORD: for I am with you to save you, and to deliver you from his hand.

  • And thou, son of man, be not afraid of them, neither be afraid of their words, though briers and thorns be with thee, and thou dost dwell among scorpions: be not afraid of their words, nor be dismayed at their looks, though they be a rebellious house.

  • Be not afraid , ye beasts of the field: for the pastures of the wilderness do spring , for the tree beareth her fruit, the fig tree and the vine do yield their strength.

  • But straightway Jesus spake unto them, saying , Be of good cheer ; it is I; be not afraid .

  • And Jesus came and touched them, and said , Arise , and be not afraid .

  • Then said Jesus unto them, Be not afraid : go tell my brethren that they go into Galilee, and there shall they see me.

  • As soon as Jesus heard the word that was spoken , he saith unto the ruler of the synagogue, Be not afraid , only believe .

  • For they all saw him, and were troubled . And immediately he talked with them, and saith unto them, Be of good cheer : it is I; be not afraid .

  • And I say unto you my friends, Be not afraid of them that kill the body, and after that have no more that they can do .

  • Then spake the Lord to Paul in the night by a vision, Be not afraid , but speak , and hold not thy peace :

  • By faith Moses, when he was born , was hid three months of his parents, because they saw he was a proper child; and they were not afraid of the king’s commandment.

FROM HERE:  http://musingsofaministerswife.com/ministry/so-how-many-times-is-fear-not-actually-in-the-bible/

Jonah…

from Paul Tripp

From here:

https://www.paultripp.com/articles/posts/are-you-too-familiar-with-jonahs-story

Transcript

I want you to think about your own life. Where is God calling you to do something hard? Where is God calling you to something out of the comfortable way you’d like to live life? Who are hard people God has put you near? What are hard things God is calling you to do? Where are you struggling to do the hard things God is calling you to do—hard things with your money that doesn’t actually belong to you; hard things with your time that doesn’t actually belong to you; hard things with the people around you that aren’t actually possessions for your happiness? What hard thing is God calling you to? And how are you responding to hard call of God?

Let’s be honest. Can I be honest with you? I don’t know why I’m asking permission, I’m going to be. You’re Christianity is not defined by Sunday morning when you’re throwing your head back and singing some kind of worship song. That’s the easy call of God. That doesn’t define your Christianity at all. It never has. And you shouldn’t evaluate how close you are to God and how much you’ve surrendered to his plan because you can attend a service and get excited about great music and great teaching.

It’s Tuesday night when someone is bugging the stuff out of you, and God has chosen for you to live next to a person who in every way irritates you, that how much you’re surrendering to the call of God is made clear. Because God says you’re supposed to love your neighbor as yourself no matter what.

When God calls you to not treat your money as your own—and you don’t have much, and having a little money isn’t an excuse to not be generous and not be supportive of the plan of God—how are you responding to that hard call? When God chooses something to enter your experience that you would’ve never planned for yourself, something that’s hard and difficult, when the unexpected and unwanted and the unplanned enters your door: how do you respond? Do you question the goodness of God? Do you question his presence? Do you look over the fence and envy somebody’s life? Or do you say, “You’re Lord! You can lead me anywhere you want to leave me. My rest is not in my circumstances. My rest is in you.” How are you responding to the hard call of God?

I want to say to you, as I read Jonah, I’m more like this man than I’m unlike him. And it’s easy to look at Jonah and say, “I would’ve never run from God!” and be a runner every day of your life and you don’t know it. And I’m concerned that my self-righteousness will not allow me to get the message out of Jonah because the first thing I do is separate myself from him. I say, “No way Paul Tripp’s a Jonah! Look, I’m in ministry! I preach! I write books!” Yet I can sit in a moment where my wife hasn’t agreed with the glory of my stunning thinking and say nasty things to her. And at that moment, I’m a runner just like this man. The call of Jonah was hard.

Think about the message he was called to communicate. How would you like to go to an exceedingly evil city and the single message you’re supposed to communicate is judgment? How’s that for a happy, attractive job description? You just go, and you walk the streets of this evil city and you announce that there’s a God who’s about to mete out judgment on it? There’s nothing about this call that’s attractive.

And we’ll never get the best out of Jonah if we separate ourselves from this struggle. God’s going to call you to do hard things. And it’s in those moments when you have a measure of the degree of the surrender of your heart to God. Not in the easy moments. Not in those beautiful, warm, community worship moments. But in the moments when I’m facing thing I don’t want to face, and God is calling me to do what it’s not naturally for me to do. It’s not natural for me to uproot my life and go to people I have nothing in common with and speak a message that they don’t want to hear. Let’s not be too hard on Jonah. Jonah is in the Bible because he’s like us. Put your name there, and confess with me right now, that there’s probably evidence somewhere in your life, where you’re a runner.

 

from here: https://www.paultripp.com/articles/posts/are-you-too-familiar-with-jonahs-story

Made To Live For

 

 

FROM HERE:  https://www.paultripp.com/content

What You Were Made To Live For

Why do little kids daydream about being a pilot or a princess?

Why do college students volunteer for charitable causes?

Why do sports fans lose their mind over small round ball?

Why do we keep records and keep trying to break them?

Why do we get hooked to fictional movies and scripted TV shows?

Why do we look back on life and wonder what could have been?

Because we all trying to live for something bigger.

This desire for transcendence – going beyond the ordinary range of human experience – is in us because God placed it there.

The Creator designed us to chase meaning and purpose. More significant than our physical body, he gave us eyes to cast visions, brains to innovate, and hearts to desire bigger and better.

But then sin entered the world and twisted our pursuit of more. We either stopped chasing it altogether, or we got it confused and started to pursue much less.

What were you and I originally intended to live for? Let’s go back to the beginning:

1. We Were Made To Live For God (Genesis 1:26)

Since we are created by God and in his likeness, the transcendent glory that every human being quests for, whether we recognize it or not, is not an element in creation. Our lives are designed to be shaped by our attachment to the Creator.

2. We Were Made To Live For Truth (Genesis 1:28, 2:16)

Immediately upon creating Adam and Eve, God spoke to them – something he didn’t do with anything else. God has hardwired us with communicative abilities to receive his revelation, glorious truths that shape everything we think, desire, and do.

3. We Were Made To Live For Community (Genesis 2:18)

We were made to need one another, and this community is meant to exist in a variety of forms: sibling, parent, spouse, neighbor, friend, teammate, co-worker, etc. This web of ongoing relationships requires us to live for more than just ourselves.

4. We Were Made To Live For Stewardship (Genesis 1:28)

God carefully constructed his world and then placed it in the hands of people. You and I are designed to be resident managers, caring for the wide variety of amazing things God has purposefully crafted to be reflectors of his glory.

Why does this matter today?/p>

It’s unlikely that God will call you to drop everything you’ve been doing and start something new.

Rather, he calls you every morning to attach yourself to him, to be guided by his truth, to immerse yourself in community, and to be a steward of the gifts he has given you.

All in the midst of what you are already doing.

God has placed you just where he wants you. And he wants you to be part of something big.

He wants you to live for the Kingdom of God, in the situations, locations, and relationships of your everyday life.

His powerful grace enables you to live for that glorious kingdom, right here, right now.

God bless

Paul Tripp

 

FROM HERE:  https://www.paultripp.com/content

Relationships – THE WALL

Most people spend all their energy blaming other people for their relational problems.

 

 

Listen to this once a year…

170322_Building the Bridge to Forgiveness.mp3

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/media/daily-broadcast/building-the-bridge-to-forgiveness-pt1

Best-selling author Gary Chapman explains how listeners can work to heal broken relationships by taking personal responsibility and seeking forgiveness. (Part 1 of 2)

Part of the L.U.V.E. — A Five-step Communication Process for Conflict Resolution Series

  1. Listening is the First Step to Conflict Resolution in L.U.V.E.
  2. Understanding is the Second Step to Conflict Resolution in L.U.V.E.
  3. Validation is the Third Step to Conflict Resolution in L.U.V.E.
  4. Empathy is the Fourth Step to Conflict Resolution in L.U.V.E.
  5. Apology is the Fifth Step to Conflict Resolution in L.U.V.E.

Four parts of an apology

The process of a healing apology is made up of four simple statements. Consider how powerful these 12 words can be in helping reach the deepest level of intimacy:

“I was wrong.” These first three words acknowledge that your words or actions hurt your spouse, and they validate his or her pain.

“I am sorry.” These next three words go beyond confession and give you the opportunity to explain that you understand how much you hurt your spouse, and you feel terrible about it. The empathy allows you to feel the remorse necessary for the next statement.

“Please forgive me.” These words inform your spouse that you accept responsibility for your actions and that you want to see your relationship reconciled. You are not demanding anything; instead, you are inviting your spouse to forgive you and to restore the intimacy and connection that was broken. Requesting forgiveness also displays humility from the offender because you have to admit that you have been wrong and you are willing to make things right.

“I love you!” The final three words affirm your love and commitment to your spouse. They say that your love isn’t dependent on whether your spouse forgives you. Instead, you are saying that your love is unconditional and that your heart is fully open.

Conflicts, arguments and offenses are unavoidable, but the inability to forgive can become a person’s personal prison. To remain in a loving relationship, you must grasp the idea that forgiveness is essential.

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/communication-and-conflict/luve-a-five-step-communication-process-for-conflict-resolution/apology-is-the-fifth-step-to-conflict-resolution-in-luve

 

How to tear the wall down:

  1. Identify your own failures!
    1. Start with prayer – Psalm 139:23-34
      1. Psalm 139:23-24English Standard Version (ESV)
        23 Search me, O God, and know my heart!
            Try me and know my thoughts![a]
        24 And see if there be any grievous way in me,
            and lead me in the way everlasting![b]
    2. List what God reveals to you, things like:  Where am I failing?  “be ye kind one to another”, “tender hearted” or harsh cold bitter cruel mean, “forgive one another”,   Promises made and never kept.
  2. Confess all the above list to God.  “If we confess our sinS,
    • 1 John 1:9    If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
    • Confess just means to AGREE.  To AGREE with God that our sins are wrong.   The opposite of confess is to present God with an excuse that the OTHER person did something first.    Do not let someone else’s bad behaviour be an excuse for me to behave badly.   Confess means to “ACCEPT GOD’s Forgiveness”.
  3. Get and maintain an Empty concience.  Confession to the other person.
    • Acts 24:16   16 So I always take pains to have a clear conscience toward both God and man.
    • Nothing is more important for mental health and spiritual health than having and maintaining (working on) a clear concience.

 

In you Lord my God I put my trust. My hope is in you all day long.

David saw something that king Saul could not see.  Hope in the lord.

24.24  Andy Stanley – David the Reluctant hero.   David_ The Reluctant Hero.mp3

See clearly.

Act confidently.

Walk humbly.

Recognize that we canNOT control outcomes.  There are too many variables that are outside my control.  Must lean the weight of my life on the Lord who does have control on all variables.

I have no control over all the variables that control outcomes.

In you Lord my God I put my trust.  My hope is in you all day long.

 

Psalm 25:5

Guide me in your truth and teach me,
    for you are God my Savior,
    and my hope is in you all day long.

David was and is considered Isreal’s greatest king.  NOT because David was perfect or even near perfect.  David made terrible mistakes.  David was and is David’s greatest king because as king 1) he always put his hope in God.  2) David never confused him self with “THE” king.