“Compatibility is an achievement of love. It cannot be its precondition.” Alain de Botton
Culture (movies and tv) teach us love “happens at first sight”. No. Love is like fluid poured into a
Nowhere do we realistically teach ourselves and our children how love deepens and stumbles, survives and evolves over time, and how that process has much more to do with ourselves than with what is right or wrong about our partner.