http://www.npr.org/programs/ted-radio-hour/399796647/maslows-human-needs (TED Radio April 17, 2015)
- Look at EACH of the above as EACH — a FEELING and a REALITY
- Each person has a unique perception of REALITY. Each person’s perception of reality is coloured by past experience and emotions. Humans tend to make up stories to understand their experiences. The stories are often not accurate/true/reality but non-the-less they inform our emotions which alters our perception of reality.
- When we realise that the choices we make in terms of responding to our desires, (the way we talk, communicate, actions we take) impacts our experiences we realise that these things affect our perception of reality. We **DO** have impact on control our perception of reality. And through that, our FEELINGS in regards to each of the above and our resulting happiness.
- TED Weekends explores how our minds shape reality
WHAT IS MY WORLD VISION that I CHOOSE FOR? AM I free to choose my world vision? YES BY ALL MEANS. It is a LIE if I tell myself this is out of my control.
- We have the ability as human being to overcome our fears.
Self-actualization is a term that has been used in various psychology theories, often in slightly different ways. The term was originally introduced by the organismic theorist Kurt Goldstein for the motive to realize one’s full potential. Expressing one’s creativity, quest for spiritual enlightenment, pursuit of knowledge, and the desire to give to society are examples of self-actualization. In Goldstein’s view, it is the organism’s master motive, the only real motive: “the tendency to actualize itself as fully as possible is the basic drive… the drive of self-actualization. What makes us truly happy?
Maslow’s self-actualizing characteristics
- Efficient perceptions of reality.Self-actualizers are able to judge situations correctly and honestly. They are very sensitive to the fake and dishonest, and are free to see reality ‘as it is’.
- Comfortable acceptance of self, others and nature.Self-actualizers accept their own human nature with all its flaws. The shortcomings of others and the contradictions of the human condition are accepted with humor and tolerance.
- Reliant on own experiences and judgement.Independent, not reliant on culture and environment to form opinions and views.
- Spontaneous and natural.True to oneself, rather than being how others want.
- Task centering.Most of Maslow’s subjects had a mission to fulfill in life or some task or problem ‘beyond’ themselves (instead of outside of themselves) to pursue. Humanitarians such as Albert Schweitzer are considered to have possessed this quality.
- Self-actualizers are free from reliance on external authorities or other people. They tend to be resourceful and independent.
- Continued freshness of appreciation.The self-actualizer seems to constantly renew appreciation of life’s basic goods. A sunset or a flower will be experienced as intensely time after time as it was at first. There is an “innocence of vision”, like that of an artist or child.
- Profound interpersonal relationships.The interpersonal relationships of self-actualizers are marked by deep loving bonds.
- Comfort with solitude.Despite their satisfying relationships with others, self-actualizing people value solitude and are comfortable being alone.
- Non-hostile sense of humor.This refers to the ability to laugh at oneself.
- Peak experiences.All of Maslow’s subjects reported the frequent occurrence of peak experiences (temporary moments of self-actualization). These occasions were marked by feelings of ecstasy, harmony, and deep meaning. Self-actualizers reported feeling at one with the universe, stronger and calmer than ever before, filled with light, beauty, goodness, and so forth.
- Socially compassionate.Possessing humanity.
- Few friends.Few close intimate friends rather than many superficial relationships.